Relapse is not a requirement. There is no rule that says you need to test the waters over and over again before you finally decide to get clean. There are no assignments or due dates, there is no endpoint. We strive for constant growth and evolution.
In the recovering community, there are lots of suggestions to take to prevent relapse. Many people build a network to lean upon in weak moments. Many people chose to lean on God and pray. Also, there are always 12 step meetings to attend. Regardless of how you got sober, there is plenty of literature to read which will help with the sudden urges. Personally, I reach out to friends when I am having a weak moment. I remind myself that these thoughts, are just thoughts. That's all. What really matters is what I do.
Our best advice to prevent relapse is simple. DON'T USE. DON'T DRINK. There will be many times when you wan't to. Sometimes you may not be able to get in touch with a friend who can help. Sometimes there may not be an available meeting. When the thought of a cold beer or nice hit will call to you, just don't do it. No matter what it takes. Take a nap, read a book or grab a bite to eat. If you don't use, you can't get high. Eventually the thought will pass, and you are that much closer to another day sober. What's most important is that you stay away from the first one.
Granted, this is much easier said than done. If the holy grail for recovery was as simple as not drinking, than recovery would have a 100% success rate. Of course, recovery is not that cut and dry. But lets think about it for a second...
We can over complicate things. We have developed plenty of useful strategies and coping mechanisms, but at the end of the day, just don't drink. Don't get high. If you put enough days together, eventually your life with start to turn around for the better. You will be happy, joyous, and free. Life is good!
I was clean for 2 yrs and relapsed now im having trouble trying to get clean again and dont know where to begin.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your honesty. The first step is just admitting you have a problem. Reach out, ask for help. Addiction is so powerful and we can't do this alone. You need to ask someone for help. I hope you do. You have done this before and you know what it takes! Just go do it!
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